Over the years I've learnt that despite the fact that I lack many qualities, I happen to be quite a good listener. At least, that's what my friends tell me; when I'm not in a world-of-my-own mode I'm one of the best listeners you can find :) Willing to give you all the time on my hands whilst trying to spare some encouraging words of advice and all that (and I'm in no way trying to boast here, I'm just saying.)
That said, this way of doing things is usually accompanied by many "No, you start. I'll tell you my news some other time" or "We'll have time for that, don't worry" from my part and sometimes, after a chat and coffee with friends I find myself returning home slightly upset and overwhelmed by stuff which doesn't really belong to me. Again, I'm not expecting anything here (Gieh ir-Repubblika? - the locals will get me immediately on this one ;)) Where do I want to take this conversation? Yesterday my friend listened to me, like really really listened. And I felt so much better afterwards. I just went on about what was really bothering me and she was so nice, really listened; I didn't even give her my usual "Sorry if I'm taking your time, I'll be brief and shut up in a minute" because I felt so comfortable and relieved that I was getting it out of my system that I didn't even remember to go there :)
And it feels better. I'm glad I went ahead and shared, glad she went out of her way for me. The lesson learned? Next time less of "sorry for taking your time" and more of "now it's my turn, listen to this one" ;)
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